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This Is Us – Her (3×18)

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Rebecca’s the engine that keeps the family running and losing her is going to be a total loss.

But it was bound to happen right?

It’s the natural order of things.

The episode finally revealed the identity of the ‘her’ everyone was referring to in the future, and though I expected it to be a sickly Rebecca based on how heavy the moment was for Randall, Tess and Toby, it was still heartbreaking to watch.

I’ll tackle the hardest moment of the episode first to get it out of the way mainly so I can finally stop balling my eyes out.

Everyone gathered at Kevin’s HUGE house to seemingly say their goodbye’s to Rebecca.

The scene with a young Randall walking through the hospital halls to visit his mother who was in a car accident mirrored him in the future walking to see his bed-ridden and very old mother possibly on her death bed.

She appears to be senile as Randall reminds his mother who he is.

The surprising part is that the ‘he’ Randall inquires about isn’t Miguel, it’s Nicky Pearson, Jack’s mystery and presumed dead brother.

Does this mean Miguel has already passed?

Has Nicky developed a close bond with the family since their original meeting?

It was obvious that the emotional bulk of this episode was going to surround Rebecca as both the past and the present storylines dealt with how much the Pearson kids and later adults loved and needed her.

At some point, we were going to have to address that she wouldn’t live forever despite being super mom, right?

However, I don’t think I’m ready to bury another Pearson just yet. I’m still not over Jack’s death.

The brief future scenes answered some other lingering questions.

In the present, Kevin and Zoe realized they couldn’t get past the issue of having children. Kevin chose Zoe with the hope that like his mother, she’d change her mind about having kids.

Zoe eventually realized it and the two broke up when she made it clear, again, that she will never change her stance on this.

One thing that didn’t sit well with me was how blatantly transparent Kevin and Zoe’s babysitting scenes were to further their own children storyline.

Obviously, Kevin would be a great dad. He grew up with one of the greatest, and he’s been through enough to give Tess sound advice about finding herself despite never going through what she was going through.

But simply because they were doing well with his brother’s kids doesn’t negate Zoe’s feelings or beliefs about kids.

It irritated me that Kevin even thought they would. He clearly didn’t take Zoe seriously, and I’m glad she stood her ground.

Breakups always suck, and this one stung because they were a genuinely good couple, but it was necessary for both of them to grow.

The flash-forward revealed that Zoe was right; Kevin had a son, though the mother remains a mystery. Do you think it could be Sophie? That would be something, wouldn’t it?

Oh, and did I mention Kevin has a ginormous house?

Beth and Randall finally got a chance to breathe after all the marital woes they’ve been experiencing as of late concerning their passions.

Randall was reminded about how lucky he’s been to win the lotto — adoption and Beth — with a very compelling speech from Deja.

She’s learned a thing or two from Randall!

Her personal account of living with terrible parents was truly heartbreaking. It’s easy to forget how much Deja has gone through now that he foster home problems aren’t at the forefront and she’s accustomed to living with the Pearson’s, but it’s sweet that she still knows where she came from and appreciates where she’s at.

Meanwhile, Beth realized that while her dream is to teach dance, she’s not doing it the way she wants by working for herself.

Both of them were willing to compromise, with Randall even assuring Beth he’d resign because his dreams were unrealistic.

But, alas, Beth had a better plan and one viewers have been suggesting all along: they’d move to Philadelphia and she’d open up her own dance studio.

When Beth mentioned the dance studio, I breathed a sigh of relief because I knew that was a good sign for their future.

In the future flash-forwards, we knew Beth had her own place, but we also thought it meant she and Randall had divorced.

Similarly, when future Randall said ‘hey baby’ to Beth, I burst out crying. They survived everything thrown at them and came out stronger!

Though I really did think the lavish house was going to be there’s!

One couple that’s not doing so well is Kate and Toby.

In the present, the two are doing just fine as they wait to take a premie Jack from the hospital.

He’s learning to breathe on his own but needs a little nudge in the right direction from time to time.

Understandably, it’s a very tense time for Kate as she worries about her child surviving and becoming a good parent, but her behavior towards Rebecca, per usual, was annoying.

Kate’s little fit about her mother overstepping drove me to yell at the TV. Why is she always so ungrateful?

Nerves are nerves, but Rebecca took charge, took notes, and saved baby Jack’s life. Not to mention she was just trying to be there for Kate during this tough time.

Kate eventually realized the error of her ways and apologized for overreacting in advance, which was cute.

I know it’s her insecurities getting the best of her, but Rebecca doesn’t deserve any of it. I’m over how she continuously acts terribly towards her own mother.

Rebecca is an angel for being so cool, calm and collected all the time.

Seeing her acknowledge that living up to her mother and that effortless Rebecca-magic was going to be hard was probably the sweetest moment we’ve ever seen between the two.

Rebecca is an angel for being so cool, calm and collected all the time.

In the future, Kate and Toby aren’t together, which is explains why he was hesitant on coming to the Pearson gathering and said ‘she’ wouldn’t want him there.

Marriages are tough and go through many different phases so there could be a plethora of reasons that lead to their divorce.

We’ll have to tune in to This Is Us Season 4 to find out.

Kate and Jack, who isn’t a baby anymore, were on their way to Kevin’s house. It’s a silver lining that at least their miracle baby survived!

We’ll get more involved with this future storyline as next season progresses, but I have to say, I can’t wait to see what older Kate and Kevin look like.

They truly nailed Beth and Randall, not to mention the spot-on casting for older Tess!

Overall, This Is Us Season 3 had it’s better and worse moments.

The delivery of timelines and mysteries has begun feeling slightly manipulative. Maybe it’s always been this way and we were just too impressed with Jack’s charm to notice, but this episode, in particular, showed exactly how contrived the storylines have become.

It wouldn’t even be possible to predict anything in this series because memories are created simply to align with the story the writers are trying to tell in the present and future.

Still, there’s an emotional depth with this finale that the series hasn’t had since Jack’s passing.

Rebecca has had a spark, spunk and light about her that has carried this show during the good times and the bad, and also gifted us with these incredible humans.

Saying goodbye to her probably won’t happen immediately when the series picks back up, but it’s unavoidable.

What did you think of the This Is Us Season 3 finale?

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This Is Us Review – Who Is Randall’s Therapist? (4×15)

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It’s been a while since we’ve dealt with the Big Three simultaneously in multiple timelines and it’s for good reason as “Clouds” on This Is Us teetered on the verge of overwhelming.

In the present day, Randall went to his first therapy appointment and made a revelation that will propel him into a rivalry with his family, Kate wondered whether or not Toby’s newfound love for baby Jack was genuine, and Kevin spent time with his ill mother.

Rebecca also got the diagnosis that we all feared.

In the past, Jack tried to help Randall blow off some steam through running, Kate moped around following her breakup with Stuart and learned a waffle-y lesson about love, and Kevin spent time with his mother.

And, as always, the series brilliantly intertwined all the stories in such a pure way that only This Is Us is capable of.

Still, I would have been completely content with the episode focusing solely on Kevin and Rebecca because their relationship is so special.

Also because Justin Hartley continues to be the ray of sunshine delivering great performance after great performance. He’s so nuanced while always keeping this lightness about him.

Rebecca said it was a quality he’s always had, and we’ve never truly seen her appreciate it until now. Carpe Diem Rebecca is doing all the things Rebecca bottled up inside and living out a bucket list as she fears for what the future holds.

Kevin’s present and past storyline paralleled each other — he spent the day hanging out with his mother.

In the past, he tagged along because he wanted to buy playing cards, but in the present, he spent the day just being there for his mom and enjoying every minute of it before her dreaded appointment.

During his time, he realized that the seemingly insignificant moments are the memories that will forever be cherished. They weren’t just buying a baseball card that day, they were making a lifelong memory and one that Kevin will likely hold dear when his mother cannot remember it.

Rebecca and Kevin’s relationship has gone through its share of ups-and-downs, so it was nice to see them genuinely enjoy each other’s company.

Rebecca was able to let go when she was around him, had fun, and just laughed. For a moment, she escaped reality and forgot about her worries.

In life, humans go through phases where we need certain people at certain times.

Growing up, Randall was the reliable child that Rebecca bonded with the most and needed around. He was the “adult” out of the Big Three, but now, in this part of her life, she needs someone like Kevin who will just let her be free and enjoy the moments while she still can.

Back in the day, Rebecca was always taking care of Randall and worrying about him, and she doesn’t have the mental capacity for that anymore, especially not when she’s going through so much on her own.

It’s incredibly heartbreaking that something so pure and beautiful is the moment that’s going to drive a wedge between the brothers and likely, the family.

Randall, whether he wants to admit it or not, liked being the person Rebecca could rely on. It gave him a sense of purpose. It’s why he wants to believe that the whole family would have fallen apart without him — it makes him feel important and gives him a sense of worth.

As that begins to wash away and he realizes someone as unreliable as Kevin holds the spot, he’s not going to cope well.

Too much pressure was put on Randall when he was younger, that’s a fact. He was never taught to deal with his anxiety head-on but instead, told to run it off or brush it off.

It’s all manifesting now as he begins to lose that grip on his family.

It’s unfortunate because Kevin has always been made to feel worthless, and this reaffirms those beliefs from a brother that he has always put first and always helped.

Kevin was always the one to coax Randall through a panic attack or breakdown, and yet, he can’t get the same kind of love and respect from his brother.

Randall didn’t tell Kevin about Rebecca’s illness because they were scared how he’d react, but Kevin’s been holding it together just fine.

Instead, Randall is the one unraveling, which isn’t entirely unexpected, but it’s also odd to see Kevin holding things down.

It’s as if Randall wanted Kevin to crash and burn upon finding out and when he didn’t, Randall didn’t understand what to do.

What was the deal with the therapist? Who is she?

Randall’s therapy scene played out with the audience seeing things from her perspective, but eventually, we saw her face.

I think there’s more of a reason to keep her identity from us at first than just wanting to put the audience in the therapist’s seat.

Did anyone else think it was weird the way she told Randall, “I know who you are.” It almost made me feel like it’s someone related to him. I know it can’t be his birth mother, but I don’t know, I felt like there was something we were missing and it was emphasized by the ticks.

The coffee pot that was hissing was an interesting detail. It could also be a device that shows us how much Randall is progressing or where he’s at in his treatment based on what his reaction is.

Randall’s fragile state is worrisome for Beth, who is just as shaken up by the recent invasion in her home and has been keeping it to herself because she didn’t want to overwhelm for husband.

While she should be able to talk to him about what’s bothering her, I think Beth needs to also see a therapist to work through her fears.

Rebecca’s MRI confirmed Alzheimer’s,  which allows them to start treatment, but there’s really not much they can do to cure the memory loss that we know will eventually set it.

I can see it now, Rebecca’s on her death bed and hallucinates that Nicky is actually Jack. It’s going to be very emotional, so we should all start preparing.

Kate and Toby got back on track after some really great advice from Madison. When did she become a relationship expert?

Madison informed Kate that she shouldn’t resent Toby for being honest with her about his fears and concerns, which was valid.

She’s punishing him and pushing him away for being honest. Her fears of being hurt and abandoned are getting the best of her and she couldn’t even appreciate Toby’s growth or the big Pearson-like gesture he made to apologize for his behavior.

Thankfully, Madison set her straight, and again, what may have seemed like an insignificant little moment in this thing we call life was the framework for baby Jack’s whole future.

We watched him go from being a baby in his music room to a toddler, a pre-teen, a teen, and a young adult.

There’s something so powerful about seeing a character’s journey play out in front of you in moments. I bet parents will attest that watching your kids grow up happens just as quickly.

We’ll likely get to see Jack as an adult again, but it’s strange that the series hasn’t given us any storylines with him after introducing him in the first episode of season 4.

Other Thoughts

  • Madison telling Kate that she was upside down during her sexy time with Kevin was equal parts hilarious and awkward. Do we think she’s pregnant with his baby? It’s entirely possible especially after she gave that speech about Kevin “seeing her at her worst” and still liking her. She’s always wanted that, and it seems she still has the hots for him.
  • Toby’s reaction to finding out that Kevin and Madison slept together was extremely accurate.
  • Also, he made a comment about Madison becoming his sister-in-law. Was that a clue?
  • An “okay, Boomer” joke from Kevin. That really happened.
  • Mandy Moore singing Janis Joplin right before the song fittingly played over the emotional end gave me chills.
  • Did anyone else want Kevin and Rebecca to get arrested for trespassing and end up on TMZ? Now, that would make for a great memory.
  • Jack’s advice about first boyfriends being like waffles that you toss into the trash because they’re a practice run was such a good analogy. I’m going to use that on my kids one day.
  • Something so small and trivial like Jack and Rebecca singing together has the power to become a standout moment amongst all these other great moments.
  • Kevin got Rebecca to her appointment and proved he was responsible. Prove the haters wrong, baby!

To sum it up, the episode gave us insight into otherwise simple moments that would have been forgotten if not for that song.

Rebecca may soon forget these moments, and it’ll kickstart a waterfall of tears all over America when that happens, but the memories will live on in all the people she’s touched and influenced. It will live on in the Big Three, and then in their children, and their children, and their children. I just don’t know if we have that many seasons left!

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This Is Us Review – The Past Influences the Present at the Cabin (4×14)

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A time capsule can bring you back to a moment in time and put things into perspective.

At least, that’s what happened on This Is Us “The Cabin” when the Big Three reunited in their family cabin to mull over their problems.

By the end of the hour, they all had some clarity about their next steps.

Randall realized that he was done letting the anxiety control him as it did his whole life and vowed to seek out counseling. Randall’s storyline continues to be one that normalizes mental health not only in a general sense but also as it pertains to African American males.

He may seem like he has it all together, but Randall has been a ticking time bomb since the break-in. It’s important to check up on your family and want to make sure your house is safe, but the incessant way that Randall goes about it is indicative of a bigger, underlying issue that he’s repressing and refusing to acknowledge.

Digging up the time capsule and realizing that his anxiety stemmed all the way back to when they were young and over something as basic as what to bury in the ground made him realize that he needs to get it under control.

Kate dug up a game of MASH, which revealed her one wish was to “live happily ever after.”

It’s a common dream for young girls, sure, but in the context of Kate’s current situation, it was a cold, hard truth smacking her in the face.

While things may seem bleak for Kate as she questions her relationship, I’ll continue to argue that Tobias (I love that Randall calls him that) is doing just fine in the daddy department.

He may have been hesitant about embracing his blind son, but all he needed was a little push. As the two spent time together, they had a chance to really bond and without Kate around, Toby was forced to step up to the plate.

Being alone with his son helped him realize that while life may be different than he imagined with baby Jack, it isn’t any less special.

His first major realization was that baby Jack needs him in his life. He’s always going to need a father to support him, teach him right from wrong, and help him on his life’s journey.

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Parenting doesn’t always come as naturally to everyone, but I have no doubt Toby will get the hang of it.

When he saw baby Jack choking, his fatherly instincts kicked in and, in that moment, he realized just how much his son needed him.

But most importantly, Toby realized that he can still introduce Jack to all the things he loves, he just has to take a different approach.

The scene with him showing Jack all the Star Wars characters and imitating the sounds was such a sweet moment and something Jack Pearson would have done for his child.

Kate’s past storyline with Marc was also wrapped up, and it ended better than I thought it would.

After Marc, the asshole, broke Jack Pearson’s cup on purpose, Kate finally told him off, which triggered Marc’s angry meltdown.

In a fit of rage, he locked her out in the blistering cold and ignored her knocking as he knocked back a few cold ones.

Honestly, this dude couldn’t be kicked out of the house fast enough when Rebecca, Kevin, and Randall arrived.

However, I was expecting something much worse like the family finding Kate on the brink of hypothermia, so seeing them happily making pancakes and pretending everything was fine took me by surprise.

It was Randall who realized that a window was broken, noticed Kate’s gloves, and realized that something was sickeningly wrong with this “perfect” image.

Kate did her best to protect Marc because that’s what she was used to doing, but she needed to get to a point where she acknowledged how messed up their situation was.

I’m just glad she was in a safe space where Rebecca, Kevin, and Randall all had her back and that nothing worse happened to her while she was with him.

Also, Rebecca is such a strong woman who fights for the people she loves, and now, in the future, she needs them all to fight for her.

Kevin came to the cabin to cope with losing Sophie, and the time capsule reminded him that it’s always been her as he dug up a picture of the two of them when they were children.

He was also forced to come clean to Kate about sleeping with Madison after Madison blurted it out to Kate in a voicemail after telling him it should be their little secret. Thanks a lot, Madison.

Kate wasn’t entirely on-board with Kevin and Madison, but she seemed more upset about the fact that Kevin kept it from her than anything else.

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But I have to be honest, I still don’t think Madison is Kevin’s wife in the future or the woman pregnant with his baby. Unless it’s an “oopsie” and Kevin steps up to the plate, he doesn’t seem emotionally invested in pursuing anything with Madison. The “sparks” weren’t there, and that’s telling. Plus, he’s still pining over Sophie.

If I had to guess, the writers are going to pull the rug right from under us and offer a major twist just like that house.

When we first saw the flash-forward to the night the family gathers at Kevin’s to say goodbye to a sick and frail Rebecca, we assumed the house Kevin was living in was a mansion somewhere in LA.

Turns out, it’s the dream cabin that Jack Pearson sketched and planned to build for his wife one day.

Grab your tissues, it’s an emotional sucker… but you already knew that because Tuesdays are for crying!

The Big Three dug up the renderings with the time capsule and listened to a cassette that was recorded by Jack in 1993, which detailed his plans and how Rebecca always believed in him.

Kevin became inspired by the sketch and made the decision to build the house as they were leaving from their weekend getaway.

Kevin has always been the most emotionally vulnerable character, so it’s such a fitting twist to his narrative, one that has mostly found him bopping around and trying to find purpose in life.

We see a glimpse into that future scene towards the end as he returns home and greets Beth. We’ve already seen an “elderly” Randall and Beth prior to this episode, but whoa, older Kevin was just as hunky in the future.

While we know the scene is going to be heartbreaking, a part of me is looking forward to seeing elderly Kate and Toby. It will also clear up the speculation about where they are in their relationship in the future and, of course, who Kevin is married to.

As for Rebecca’s big memory secret, Randall let that out of the bag when he slipped up about a recent trip to LA.

They were forced to come clean to Kevin about Rebecca’s illness, which triggered the expected response from Kevin that they were all afraid of.

But, I don’t think any of them give Kevin enough credit. Rebecca didn’t want to tell Kevin the truth because she was afraid for his sobriety, but he’s been juggling a lot of emotional baggage and has never lost his focus or reached for an alcoholic drink.

Just like Kate and Randall, Kevin is a fighter.

But since the big secret isn’t what caused the rift between Kevin and Randall, what is it?

Does something trigger Randall during therapy? As we saw in the promo, Randall finally went to talk to a therapist and it seems that he was hit with the realization that he wasn’t the glue that held the family together.

What did you think of the episode?

Who do you think Kevin settles down with?

Will Toby and Kate make it through? How advanced will Rebecca’s cognitive impairment get?

Let us know all of your thoughts in the comments, Cravers!

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This Is Us Review – Finding Your Way Home (4×13)

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Jack taught his baby girl Kate one very important lesson on the conclusion of The Big Three Trilogy on This Is Us: “even things that we like can be bad for us, sweetheart.”

We see that’s absolutely true in flashbacks concerning her first love and first boyfriend, Marc, and we slightly see it with Toby’s struggle to accept that Jack is blind, which has prevented him from being the husband and father that Kate and Jack need.

I’ve been looking forward to the episode dedicated to Kate because I wanted to see what happens with Marc. When he was mentioned in Kate’s adult life, she had such a visceral reaction to the memories that I do believe they play a huge role in shaping her and her current relationship.

While Kate’s main struggle has always been the weight, a part of her has developed insecurities that stem from an abusive relationship with Marc.

When we first met Marc, the audience collectively knew something was up with him.

He was sweet and charming, but there was also something a little darker about him. It didn’t help that he randomly showed up at her house (stalker vibes) and the fact that neither of her siblings liked him was a huge red flag.

In reality, there were many red flags that Kate chose to ignore for one simple reason: Marc noticed her.

He was the first person to fill the Jack void following her father’s passing. A huge part of Kate’s identity was intertwined with Jack’s and when he died, so did a part of her. She lost herself.

During her fight with Rebecca in which she decides to ditch her mother’s birthday to go to the cabin with Marc, Kate admits that no one has ever looked at her in “that” way before.

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But Kate also knew that this wasn’t the right relationship and she tried desperately to ignore that.

She tried to pretend that the good outweighed the bad, that Marc would change for her, and that his anger was only temporary. It’s all too common in relationships where a woman stays because she’s hopeful or protects her abuser because she feels ashamed, which I think happened in Kate’s case.

She didn’t want to own up to the fact that her mother was right, that her whole family was right, and wanted to show them that she was a good judge of character. If Randall and Kevin were both out being adults with their significant others, why couldn’t she be?

From what we saw in this episode, Marc wasn’t physically abusive in the sense that he hit Kate, but he did kick her out of the car and left her to fend for herself in the middle of the night, which I guess counts as a physical action.

Moreso, Marc was emotionally and verbally abusive as well as manipulative. He couldn’t control his anger as we saw with his outburst during their coffee date with Rebecca and after he kicked Kate out of the car.

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He also wanted to control Kate’s actions by telling her what she should do, what she should read, and where she should work. And he wanted her to feel indebted to him for getting her the job in the first place.

He latched onto Kate’s biggest insecurity and exposed it whenever he felt the need to regain that control ie. when he fat-shamed her for grabbing chocolates and when she said he can’t look at her face, and he was an alcoholic.

None of this is to say Marc was a bad guy — there were moments where he showed remorse and seemed to care about Kate — but there’s no denying that he’s a product of his upbringing and “hurt people hurt people.”

Unlike Jack, who overcame his demons and became a model father, Marc was the polar opposite and allowed his upbringing to define him and control his life.

The toxic nature of the relationship caused Kate to doubt herself, to place blame on herself, and to shame herself.

She thought she deserved to be in the situation, and it was upsetting to watch.

All of those insecurities manifested themselves in the present day.

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Toby is struggling in his own way with accepting baby Jack’s reality, and Kate finds herself walking on eggshells because she’s scared to hurt his feelings or lose him. A lot of what she’s feeling and acting on leads right back into what she experienced with Marc.

Thankfully, Toby has always been a good guy like her father. He also battled his demons and came out on the other side healthier and stronger.

The difference between someone like Marc and Toby (and yes, age difference plays a factor so it’s comparing apples to bananas, really but bear with me) is that Toby wants to be a good father and feels guilty for disappointing the family while Marc never truly wanted to change.

The episode left off with Marc coming back to get Kate and showing remorse for leaving her behind, but another teaser shows that he has another angry outburst and locks Kate out of the cabin in the middle of a cold, winter night. The remorse he feels is negated by another hurtful act.

Rebecca, who didn’t wasn’t a fan of the vibe Marc was putting down, rallied the troops to go save her Kate, and boy, I would not want to be Marc when Kevin and Randall get their hands on him.

It’s beautiful that the hero in Kate’s story isn’t Jack but rather Rebecca.

For several seasons, Kate was a “daddy’s girl” and had some resentment for her mother; their relationship suffered at times because of Kate’s insecurities and jealousy, but her mother never gave up on her.

Just like in the flashbacks, in the present day, Rebecca is also a phone call away and ready to be by Kate’s side as she tackles this new challenge in her life with baby Jack’s blindness.

While Kate was upset that Toby didn’t go the retreat, there was something so special about Rebecca joining her.

It may be one of the last few moments that Kate and Rebecca have together before the memory loss begins to take effect.

In both instances, Rebecca was the rock that Kate needed.

She helped Kate “lift the weight” and finally get into the pool, she helped her realize that she’s way stronger than most people think including herself, and she reminded her that with or without Toby, Kate has what it takes to raise this baby.

She kickstarted a fire in Kate that hasn’t been burning in some time because she was complacent.

And through all of it, Rebecca didn’t judge Kate, she didn’t judge Toby, heck, she never even said a bad word about him, which speaks volumes to the growth she’s had as a character. I think that a less judgemental approach and the more understanding nature helped strengthen their relationship.

Rebecca explained that her illness made her become more “fun” because she no longer fusses about the little things and it’s true. My favorite line of the episode was when Rebecca told Kate “you’re fat, I’m ancient, we’re gorgeous.”

Somehow, the line was both something Rebecca would say and something Rebecca wouldn’t say. In fact, it’s something she’s always wanted to say but couldn’t because her relationship with Kate was fragile. She never wanted to offend her daughter or make her feel less than, but at the same time, it’s important that Rebecca is real about their situation.

Kate is fat (and it’s both good and bad), Rebecca is ancient (there’s no denying that), and these qualities and more make them gorgeous. It’s time they started accepting their truths and living them rather than being ashamed and stifled by them.

The statement combined with all of Rebecca’s other motherly advice empowered Kate so that she would stop sulking, turning to other people for validation, and could finally confront the issue with Toby head-on.

Toby doesn’t deserve to be shamed for his very human fears and feelings, but he also has to get it together and accept the truth that baby Jack won’t ever have his vision but he can still have a meaningful life. His parents are there to be his first teachers and show him that life has purpose, to help him navigate it, and to give him adjustments.

The fact that Kate found the courage to lay down the law and Toby felt the pressure and found the courage to tell her he wants to watch baby Jack for the weekend was real progress. Rebecca knew he had it in him and so did we, he just needed a little push in the right direction.

There’s also something to be said about the fact that Kate’s personal opinion of herself has been so wrapped up in the exterior and her image and yet, her son will never know what she looks like and will never get to base his opinion on any of those factors.

There were so many truly wonderful moments in this episode that managed to find a healthy balance between the emotionally heavy and the light almost fairytale-like moments.

Justin Hartley did a wonderful job directing and incorporating the very fabric of what makes this show great into every scene.

He really managed to nail what makes Rebecca and Kate’s relationship so special.

From their late-night swim to Rebecca’s story about the lightning bugs (and finally, the meaning behind her nickname “bug), and their karaoke session to “Ironic,” it was all so wonderful and encompassing of a whole lifetime of memories leading up to this very moment.

Sadly, all of these feel-good moments lead me to believe that Rebecca’s memory loss is going to be much worse than she told Kate it would be.

However, it’s comforting that she was the one to tell Kate the truth about her diagnosis and didn’t keep it from her to protect her.

At this point, Kevin is the only one who doesn’t know, which means that he may get upset with Randall for not cluing him in.

The upcoming episode finds the Big Three at the cabin in both the present and the past.

We know from flashbacks that Kate and Marc’s story has only just begun, but what happens when the adult Big Three now dubbed “Sad Three” reunite to talk through their worries, concerns, and fears?

What did you think of the Kate-centric episode? It’s been a hell of a week, hasn’t it?

Is it everything you hoped it would be? How are you feeling about her and Rebecca’s relationship dynamic?

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