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Victoria F Is Gaslighting Peter on ‘The Bachelor’ Season 24 and It Needs to Stop

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Victoria F has quickly risen to the ranks of becoming this season’s most problematic contestant on The Bachelor.

She started off as the “shy, meek mouse,” briefly transformed into the “the realest chick in the house,” and then quickly spiraled into a gaslighter whenever Peter Weber (aka Pilot Pete) confronted her about anything.

The behavior she exhibited on multiple occasions, including the most recent hometowns episode, is characteristic of gaslighting.

For those unfamiliar with the term, it means to “manipulate a person by psychological means that causes them to question their own sanity.”

Victoria F has this impeccable knack to turn anything Peter says around and make it his fault.

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In the most recent episode, when Peter brought up Merisa’s worries that Victoria has a colorful past of “breaking up relationships,” Victoria didn’t even let Peter finish his sentence before throwing a fit, assuring him that “she can’t,” and blaming him for ruining their night.

The mature, healthy reaction would have been to address the claims or rumors, tell her side of the story, and simply move on with the night allowing Peter to meet the family.

But this problem isn’t exclusive to this week’s episode. Anytime Peter raises any legitimate concern about their relationship or anything in general, Victoria F spins everything he says to make herself look like the victim; she’s unable to communicate, their connection is toxic, and yet, she was given the third rose while Kelsey was eliminated.

Peter attempted to call it out by informing her that anytime this happens, they get into a fight, she walks away, breaks down crying, and then apologizes to him for her actions.

And despite seeing it with his own eyes, Peter still felll for it.

As is often the case, Peter doesn’t seem to be unaware that he’s a victim of Victoria F’s tactics and continues to reward her behavior time and time again.

Understandably, it makes for some great television, but it’s also problematic to continue glorifying this type of behavior.

Twitter didn’t hesitate to call it out with one user pointing out that she’s never at fault and answers questions with questions.

This isn’t the first time gaslighting was an issue on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette either.

In 2019, Luke P was accused of bringing the manipulation tactics on heavily making her question what she thinks. Cosmpolitan put out a piece about the warnings signs of gaslighting which included lying about what he said, saying he’s the one getting manipulated, changing the context of what he said, and more.

In 2018, Refinery29 wrote a piece about Jordan Kimball gaslighting Jenna on Bachelor in Paradise to believe she didn’t even know why she was upset with him in the first place.

There are more instances as I’m sure #BachelorNation is aware of, but it begs the question: why don’t producers shut it down?

Actually, no, it begs the questions, why don’t we hold producers accountable? Why don’t we demand better?

There’s good television, and then there’s accepting a form of abuse that needs to be checked rather than glorified.

The Bachelor is bringing Fantasy Suites next Monday, and if nothing changes, at least you know Twitter will be keeping it real and calling the behavior out for what it is… and it isn’t love.

A Reddit user brought the issue of gaslighting up in a recent thread and offered this link to the crisis text line if you believe you are being emotionally abused How to tell if you are being emotionally manipulated Gaslighting: How it manipulates relationships how to spot and shut down gaslighting.


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Lizzy Buczak is the founder of CraveYouTV. What started off as a silly blog in her sophomore year at Columbia College Chicago turned her passion for watching TV into an opportunity! She has been in charge of CraveYou since 2011, writing reviews and news content for a wide variety of shows. Lizzy is a Music Business and Journalism major who has written for RADIO.COM, TV Fanatic, Time Out Chicago, Innerview, Pop’stache and Family Time.

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What to Watch December 2020: ‘Selena: The Series,’ ‘Blue Bloods,’ ‘Shameless, ‘Sabrina’ and More!

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What to watch in December 2020 including Shameless, Blue Bloods, and Chilling Adventures of Sabrina

The holidays are upon us and with that, some much-needed time to just sit back and relax with loved ones. 

And there’s no better way to bond with others than by watching TV!

Here are all the exciting additions coming to primetime, cable, and streaming in December?

What are you adding to your binge-watch list?

 

SEAL Team – CBS (December 2)

Season 4 returns with a 2-hour season premiere with the team’s potential shakeup. Per the synopsis: “Bravo Team enters enemy territory in the snowy Spin Ghar Mountain Range to capture Al-Hazred, the leader of a terrorist group and son of the terrorist leader that Jason took down early in his career and made him Bravo One.”

 

Selena: The Series – Netflix (December 4)

The spirit of Selena Quintanilla comes to life in Netflix’s biopic starring Christian Serratos. Re-live the story of the Tejano music and iconic Mexican-American pop star. We interview Madison Taylor-Baez, who plays young Selena in the series. Check it out now

 

The Hardy Boys – Hulu (December 4)

The Hardy Boys are back… and they’re on the case. To fill the Nancy-Drew sized void in your life, Hulu is rebooting the mystery series that will deliver action packed twists you didn’t see coming! 

 

The Great British Baking Show: Holidays – Netflix (December 4)

There’s nothing like getting into the holiday spirit with some tasty treats. The third season of the baking competition finds former bakers competing in holiday-themed challenges.

 

MacGyver, Magnum P.I., and Blue Bloods – CBS (December 4)

The trio of veteran CBS dramas returns on the first Friday of the month for season 5, season 3, and season 11, respectively. 

 

Shameless – Showtime (December 6)

The final season (season 11)  is upon us. It’s time to say goodbye to the Gallagher family after nearly 10 years together.   

 

Euphoria – HBO (December 6)

While this isn’t a second season announcement, HBO will air two special episodes bridging the gap between season 1 and 2, which has been halted due to the coronavirus pandemic. 

 

Grinch the Musical – NBC (December 9)

Your heart might grow three sizes when you see Matthew Morrison take on the cynical creature in the theatrical event. 

 

High School Musical: The Musical: Holiday Special – Disney+ (December 11)

Celebrate the holiday with the cast of HSMTMTS as they sing their favorite joyful songs and recall some holiday memories. 

 

Bridgerton – Netflix (December 25)

Shondaland is here to give you your next obsession. Shonda Rhimes’ first Netflix show following her transition from ABC is based on the popular best-selling book. It follows eight children of the late Viscount Bridgerton in Regency in the early 1800s England.

 

Letterkenny – Hulu (December 26)

The comedy sitcom about the residents of Letterkenny, a small community in Canada, returns for its ninth season! 

 

Chilling Adventures of Sabrina – Netflix (December 31)

It’s time to say goodbye to the Spellman clan, but not before one last hurrah. The fourth and final season of the Riverdale spinoff premieres on the final day of 2020. According to the synopsis,”The Eldritch Terrors descend upon Greendale [and] the coven must fight each terrifying threat one-by-one (The Weird, The Returned, The Darkness to name a few), all leading up to… The Void, which is the End of All Things.

 

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Godmothered – Disney+ (December 4)

Based on the trailer and the fact that Isla Fisher stars in the film, it’s giving me Enchanted vibes, which is a great thing. Jillian Bell stars as Eleanor, an inexperienced fairy godmother-in-training hoping to help Mackenzie Walsh (Fisher). 

 

The Prom – Netflix (December 11)

Ryan Murphy return to the streaming giant with a musical, based on the critically acclaimed 2018 Broadway musical. It follows a star-studded cast (Meryl Streep, Nicole Kidman, Keegan-Michael Key, James Corden and Andrew Rannells) of Broadway stars who visit a small-town in Indiana to help a high school girl named Emma attend to prom with her girlfriend. 

 

The Midnight Sky – Netflix (December 23)

Times are bleak, but this post-apocalyptic space thriller hopes that you’ll indulge anyway. It follows George Clooney’s Augustine, a lonely scientist in the Arctic, hoping to contact astronauts to warn them against returning home tp Earth, where a mysterious catastrophe has taken place. Meanwhile, the astronauts, led by Felicity Jones, wonder why contact with Mission Control has seized. 

 

Soul – Disney+ (December 25)

The highly-anticipated Pixar film arrives as a treat from Santa. After its theatrical release was delayed due to the COVID pandemic, the film will hit the streaming service with its star-studded cast of Jamie Foxx, Tina Fey, Daveed Diggs, Phylicia Rashad, Angela Bassett, and Graham Norton.


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5 Biggest Moments from ‘Virgin River’ Season 2

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Netflix dropped Virgin River Season 2 as a Black Friday gift for fans, and there’s so much to unpack!

You can read all of our episodic reviews here

Or, check out the 5 biggest moments from the 10-episode season below: 

 

1. An Accidental Death

After her abusive ex comes to town, Paige is terrified for her and Christopher’s safety, especially since he punished her for running away. He tells Paige to pack up their things, but when she refuses, the two get into a tussle and she accidentally pushes him down the stairs. Since Wes, a decorated cop, made it so that Paige would never be able to win in court, she knows that “self-defense” won’t hold up. Preacher helps her skip town and takes care of the body. Connie puts two-and-two together when she learns that Wes is an official missing person. As someone who lost her mother to an abusive father, she vows to help Preacher come up with a solid alibi in case they find the body. Preacher refuses, and when he learns that Wes’ partner turned on him and there’s no a warrant for his arrest, he thinks his problems are over. That is until he sees Wes show up at his bar. Turns out, it’s his identical twin brother, Vince, who is hellbent on getting revenge. 

 

2. Twins! 

Charmaine’s high-risk pregnancy poses problems for Jack, who does not want to be with her romantically. This is only intensified when Mel confirms that Charmaine is pregnant with twins. Charmaine goes out of her way to get Jack to fall in love with her, but when she realizes that it’s never going to happen, she punishes him by telling him that she’s going to get married one day and that man is going to be the father of her babies and not Jack.

 

3. An Engagement

After a whole season of sneaking around and trying to get it right, Doc finally proposes to Hope, who initially turns him down because she thinks he was sneaking around with another woman, Muriel. When Doc reveals that Muriel helped put him in touch with a vintage jeweler to reset Hope’s ring, she says “yes,” and agrees to have a vow ceremony and reception. Doc then decides to tell Hope about his illness, but before he gets to tell her what’s troubling him, they’re surprised by an engagement party. 

 

4. Brady’s Mess with Calvin

After getting fired from Jack’s, Brady picks up a job working for Calvin. He immediately realizes that something shady is going on, but the idea of making a lot of money entices him. That is until Calvin tasks him with shooting Spencer, one of his men who was trying to rat him out to Jack. Brady pretends to shoot Spencer, but instead, helps him and his family get out of town so that Spencer can testify against Calvin to bring down the whole operation. 

 

5. Jack, can you hear me?

Calvin warned Jack not to get involved in his business. When he felt like Jack was overstepping, he sabotaged his bar and got dozens of customers sick. While it’s unclear who shot Jack, it’s believed that it was either one of Calvin’s men after Mel paid a visit to Emerald Lumber to talk to Brady. Mel had just opened up to the idea of pursuing a relationship with Jack after pushing back for months because of her fear of getting hurt again. She wanted to prove that Brady didn’t kill Spencer to ease Jack’s conscience, but she may have ended up making things worse. That is unless someone else is to blame for the shooting. 

 

All of this means that we need season 3 of Virgin River now more than ever! 


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Things We’re Thankful For At CraveYouTV: 2020 TV Edition

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TV Show Things We're Grateful for in 2020

2020 has put a lot in perspective.

While it’s easy to say that it’s been a terrible year, it’s also been a year that has allowed us to reflect on and appreciate all that we have.

It’s the kind of year where we recognize all that we’re thankful for… and really mean it. 

To celebrate the holiday, CraveYouTV has put together a list of some of the TV-related things we’re grateful for this year: 

  • For shows slowly but surely coming back after the COVID hiatus. It was a hard few months without new content, but we’re grateful they’ve found safe ways to resume filming.
  • For McDreamy’s brief return on Grey’s Anatomy. Honestly, that alone could’ve made 2020 somewhat bearable.
  • For the second season of Virgin River coming to bless us this Thanksgiving.
  • For Tayshia Adams taking over the reigns from Clare Crawley and making The Bachelorette more tolerable this season. 
  • For 15 grand years with Sam and Dean on Supernatural. The finale wasn’t to everyone’s liking, but it gave us all closure. It was bittersweet to say the least. 
  • In general, for the ability for shows to have proper endings and finales. It’s always nice when a network lets a show sign off on its own terms. 
  • For the ability to watch older shows! With less airing on TV and streaming, it’s given us a chance to re-watch some oldies but goodies. 
  • For the well-crafted mysteries on The CW’s Nancy Drew
  • For medical shows tackling the real-life COVID pandemic to raise awareness. 
  • For Rio (and Manny Montana) on Good Girls
  • For Emma Corrin’s portrayal of a young and troubled Princess Diana on The Crown. The role came with plenty of criticism, but she took it in stride and gave an outstanding performance. 
  • For Atwater’s powerful stance against racist cops on Chicago PD. He’s one of the best characters to grace our screen. 
  • For Netflix expanding its holiday movie universe and giving fans some hope at a possible holiday movie crossover in the future. We’re looking at you Princess Switch 2!
  • For The Masked Singer putting the fun back in masks! 
  • For a two season renewal of Cobra Kai returning in January 2021. 
  • For The Mandalorian season 2, and Baby Yoda in general! We can’t get enough of the little guy.
  • For the Star Wars Lego Christmas special on Disney+.
  • For a second season of The Boys, a series that continues to intelligently skewer super hero fads while simultaneously reveling in what makes them fun. 
  • For a new season of The Great British Bake Off to heat things up. 
  • For the new trend of movies being released on streaming and in theaters at the same time. 
  • For The Good Place endings its four season run on a beautiful, melancholy note. 
  • For the entire Rose family on Schitt’s Creek. And that they finally got the recognition they deserved during the Golden Globes. 
  • For the 40th season of Survivor, which gave us some of the best gameplay with the greatest players ever!
  • For Netflix’s revival of Money Heist, which let the thrilling adventures of The Professor and his gang continue!
  • In general, for Netflix allowing us to watch TV shows from all over the world and in many different languages! 
  • For Fallon Carrington’s wit, sass, and style! 

We’d love to hear from you! What are you grateful for? What would you add to the list?

And now, we hope you don’t take this personally, but we’re going to take this day off to enjoy a delicious meal and some much-needed R&R with our immediate families. We hope you do the same! 

Happy Thanksgiving from all of us at CraveYouTV!


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